Why Being an Authentic Leaders Will Grow Your Business part 2

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“Try not to be a man of success, try to be a man of value”
Albert Einstein.

Presence

Your ability to be aware of your presence in any situation or circumstances is inextricably tied to your ability to ‘simply be’. To be free to focus totally on what is going on within you, in front of you and around you, an acceptance of your space, being aware of an ending of one thing and a beginning of the next.
‘Presence’ begins with the discovery of your individual purpose, not the purpose of your business, company or organisation, but your individual purpose.

Finding Your Purpose

Finding your purpose can prove to be challenging, perhaps it evolves as we grow through each of our life phases. Not only is purpose scaled by the phases of our lives but also by our present roles responsibilities and maturity.
However ‘purpose’ is only realised through getting to know the authentic self .Not accepting the conscious reality that is presented, but rather being aware of the unconscious building blocks that have contributed to our experiences. Experiences that have caused deep reflection forcing the questions of who am I? What do I stand for? Why do I what I do, and for what purpose?

The ability to answer these questions requires us to examine our values. By reflecting on our stories our narrative, our true values emerges from the beliefs and convictions that had been tested under pressure, within these narratives. It is here we learnt what was truly important from our experiences. It is here that we emerge stronger and surer of our purpose. Such stories are a reliable indicator and predictor of our ability to find meaning in such events positive or negative.

Richard Leider, founder of the Purpose Project, author and a top executive coach. With over 30 years of researching ‘purpose’ believes to find purpose is misleading because it’s not something you go out to “get” but rather something we need to turn within and “unlock” and its power determined by its maturity and its inner growth over time.

Where is the Key to Unlock Purpose? (Richard Leider)

Well here are clues to unlocking ‘purpose’, ask yourself the following questions
• Why do I get up in the morning?
• What do I truly love to do?
• What do I feel passionate about & are important to my way of being?

What is Purpose?

According to the Merriam Webster dictionary : Purpose, is the reason why something is done or used : the aim or intention of something. The feeling of being determined to achieve something. .

Why Do We Need a Sense PURPOSE?

Without it we become more vulnerable to anxiety, depression and more susceptible to addictive behaviour and habits. The powerful positive affect of having a strong sense of purpose means engagement with working towards our purpose, less likely to experience unease because our mind and energies are immersed in achieving the purpose rather than being occupied with ‘mind chatter” which often  triggers negative thoughts and feelings. Aligning ourselves to our purpose often makes us less self centered, allows us to feel a part of something bigger and external to ourselves making us focus less on our own worries and anxieties.

This alignment can bring about the experience Mihaly Czikszentmihalyi refers to as being in ‘flow’ a powerful source of wellbeing that causes us to feel happy!
Discovery of your individual purpose brings with it a self awareness, a self regulation hence an existential ‘presence’ in the here and now.  Take your first steps of action  Just  click below for a special introductory offer.

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An investment in time and energy, to pursue a purpose will require mobilization’ this catalyst is called ‘passion’ the subject of my next blog

Why Being An Authentic Leader Will Grow Your Business

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How many of you are able hands on heart are able to deal with the crisis, conflict and challenges your business or organisations presents with confidence, optimism and resilience while still  being able to keep your team motivated & aligned to the company vision and purpose?

It is an incredibly difficult balancing act which exists on a continuum of  ‘self-care’ and well-being  to  ‘burnout’  and maladaptive behaviour which is unpleasant and damaging.

More damaging though is we as leaders do not know ourselves!  Fewer than 20% of us have a strong sense of purpose, as a result we limit our aspirations and often we fail to achieve our most ambitious, professional and personal goals.

Failure to authenticity reflects in a moral deterioration ,  reduced sense of ownership , responsibility and deliberate dis-association from business or organisation. This failure can cause many of us emulate the behaviour and practices of others because of this uncertainty of not owning one’s personal experience and acting in accord with one’s core values, needs and preferences. Instead, we follow symbols society offers in the external world, money, fame, power and status. This pattern of behaviour may be useful as well as destructive  damaging and often unsustainable. If leaders feel trapped in such behaviour the situation needs to be changed.

Knowing thy self requires the courage, honesty and vulnerability to open up and examine experiences, narratives and stories that make up life experiences that have been stored in the memory of self knowledge.

This blog is going to be a series  that will explain WHY? Knowing yourself and being ‘authentic ‘ will grow your business and improve your company productivity and performance.

So What is an Authentic Leader?

The concept of authencity has its roots in Greek philosophy.  Throughout history the idea of authenticity has been held in high esteem:

“Know thyself and to thine own self be true”  (Shakespeare )

Modern day philosophers have focused attention on people who are in ‘tune’ with their basic nature clearly and accurately see themselves and their lives, unencumbered by others expectations for them. Such self-actualised leaders often make more sound personal choices, decisions and judgement.

The belief was self knowledge is the highest form of knowledge, all encompassing surpassing all other forms of knowledge and it is regarded as timeless!

So what is authenticity? And how do you get it?

If you Google authentic leadership you get over 2,000,000 results! It appears to be the new buzzword in leadership. I believe that authenticity begins with honouring the’ self’ to speak and act from our innermost convictions and feelings. That is according to Dr Nathaniel Branden (renowned psychotherapist) to preserve an attitude of self acceptance which means to accept what we are without any pretence about the truth of our own being. It poses the question

“ Shall I honour or betray the ‘self’?”

“ Do  I belong to myself or others?”

To be true to the self and to hold core values,  a leader must first have an insight and knowledge of those core values. This self-awareness is a prerequisite for authenticity.

By simply becoming more  self-aware authentic, leaders  construct conditions which  create high trust, where teams  are supported to build on their strengths. By providing a more positive environment, leaders are able to broaden their thinking and add value and a sense of ‘what is right’ to their decisions , improve the performance and productivity of their business and company over time. The more authentic leaders become the more the business performance improves.

When leaders, solo entrepreneurs, business owners are better equipped to withstand challenges faced by new ventures, and are still able to have a positive impact on team members. They are then able to realise the full potential of their vision. This is essential for the survival and growth of a business or company.

Nathaniel Branden quotes  “ In order to honour the ‘self’ is to be willing to think independently, to have the courage of your own perceptions and judgement. To know what we think, feel, need, can be accepted as the right to experience such feelings. The opposite to this attitude is denial, disowning, and repression “

How Can We Help You Make Change Happen?

My coaching practice combines the importance of ‘thinking’ with ‘self awareness’ we love  Nancy Kilne quote

“The quality of everything we do depends on the quality of the thinking we do first”

Our sessions are an invitation for leaders to explore their internal and emotional landscape to reveal how much they really know about themselves. Book here and lets see whether we have what you need to start your journey to authenticity.

The combination of thinking and self-awareness is what Coaching2transform identifies as Leadership Thinking the bringing together an existential awareness to the here and now combined with the leader’s presence within it.

Your Presence begins with the discovery of your individual purpose.

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Making Change Happen Today with Coaching2Transform

Why this matters is the topic of my next blog

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Self-Care for Solo Entrepreneurs, Business Owners and CEO’s

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Do Leaders Practice Self-Care?

As a  solo entrepreneur, business owner,  or leader, do you often find yourself at the eye of the storm, fighting not only for the survival of  your business or organisation but for yourself on a very personal level.
We all know this tends to sap energy and make work- life balance appear to be a selfish distraction or a pipe dream.

Burn out is a silent killer, invisible to leaders until it becomes extreme. If leaders do recognise burn out it is often too late, and they can’t remedy it because their fundamental ability to take care of themselves is impaired and invisible.

 Self-Care Is a Business Decision!
Solo entrepreneurs, leaders and business owners characteristically deny the impact of stress. According to the Center for Creative Leadership ” Leaders aren’t even aware that they are under performing”
It is important that self-Care begins before the disaster occurs. This involves developing a vision for your life and living it. In my previous blog ‘Is Isolation Safe’ you are reminded that the replenishment of the mind and soul will improve decision making and coping skills. Learning to understand the tools and practices of self care beforehand can contribute to well-being and health on a daily basis.

Barriers and Obstacles to Self-Care

There are many barriers to successful self-care that leaders face when deciding to change.

Perhaps a conflict that can also exists, is between the desire for health balance and the war with the fears and beliefs, that are somehow unconscious yet interconnected?
Can a leader’s genes, parent’s anxiety and environment reflect in leader behaviour? For example a predisposition to high anxiety, unreasonable expectations and demand of self and others.?

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Successful leaders who tend to be ‘guilt ridden’ or feel undeserving of their entitlement for being successful, have unconsciously felt like an outsider with regards to their family and friends and struggle with self care. Not unlike like the anxiety experience of a lottery winner.
What can ‘feel’ more natural to such a leader is their cultural environment including the family dynamics which often define the leaders’ reality and morality.
This is a leader’s only true story known, despite what the leader says or consciously intends.

Leaders feel the conflict when their reality, their story is violated, rejected, or they leave behind the unspoken norms, patterns governing their family and all that the leader used to do.
This conflict can take the form of guilt, anxiety and impacts unconscious behaviour and choices.
Such difficulties according to Michael Bader aren’t the exception but the rule, such unconscious conflict can place brakes on wishes to take better self-care, to be patient with and love the self”
Such conflict can create stress, depression, addiction, a belief that leaders really ‘don’t deserve to relax’, but to believe in the’ reality of success’

If leaders were to make that change to self -caring the first thing that they must do is to Get a coach this one simple act can:

• Improve self-awareness
• Identify areas of strength and vulnerability
• Identify stress management techniques that will work!
Avoid risky behaviour
• Discover how to approach ‘wellness’ as a business challenge with a vision and a plan
• Accountability partner

What Will Self-Care Look Like?

Science has proven that without proactive, effective self-care, the impact on the leader can be debilitating to creativity, judgement and insight. Qualities that are necessary for sustained performance, success in business and life.
Research with Leaders who opted for self-care interventions have demonstrated
• Greater productivity
• Brighter mental clarity
• More energy
• Improved ability to readily access flow and high performance states.

“When these individuals meet their physical, mental, emotional and spiritual needs , standing in the power of their best selves, they inspire others to realize their potential performance and productivity”
Dr C L Ackrill MD of WellSpark

We provide amazing support so the following common obstacles will not stand in your way!

• No time to focus on YOU!
• Tiredness
• Guilt

Change can often be difficult, so Coaching2Transform support leaders as they make the decision to pursue self-care.Discover what we can do for You Click  here for Your Discovery Session.

Making Change Happen Today with Coaching2Transform

Making Change Happen Today with Coaching2Transform